Positive Parenting: Countdown to Meltdown

Words cannot describe the feeling that wild-eyed, screaming child-holding parents experience when dealing with a toddler who wants his way and wants it now.

While parenting is definitely one of the most rewarding experiences, it can also be a challenge, and quite often, a power struggle.

It is during the early years that language is learned, habits are formed, boundaries are tested and the tried-and-true phrase "I don’t wanna" becomes the mantra of members of the toddler militia.

So what’s a tired and frustrated parent to do?  Here are a few tips on how to handle a tyrannical toddler.

One of the key things most parents fail to notice are the many warning signs of a meltdown soon to come. Most of the time, a tyrannical toddler is not really tyrannical at all. Instead, he is simply articulating his frustrations of being tired, hungry or ready to go by having a screaming meltdown.

Take heed if your tot is rubbing his eyes, yawning, whining and generally cranky. These are important signs that can tell you he is tired—thinking fast and acting on these signs can help you avoid the dreaded screaming meltdown.

Stay calm. Remaining calm in the midst of a toddler’s screaming can be very tough, but you can do it! Instead of getting angry, try to divert your attention in a positive direction by taking deep breaths.

Instead of spanking or growling under your breath, consider making your little one laugh. Laughter is always the best medicine when it comes to dealing with a potentially bad situation. You can do this by tickling your child, which is sure to turn those meltdown screams into fits of giggles.

Try singing a song. There's that old saying that music tames the savage beast—whether that beast is you or your child, it will help keep the peace during a meltdown situation. Singing one of your child’s favorite songs or even a silly, funny song will make you both feel better.

One of the best ways to turn your child’s frown upside-down is to hug him as soon as he gets into tantrum mode. It's amazing how something as simple as a hug can create a positive diversion for both you and your child.

Remember, meltdowns are normal. Noticing the signs to avert them positively is a great way to be a positive parent.